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13175678-young-couple-lying-in-bed-problem-conflictDon’t ever doubt that the body’s most important sex organ is the brain.  What’s going on in our heads easily overrides the physical components of  functional sex organs and appropriate hormone levels.

1.  Strained Relationship Issues will undermine a couple’s love life.  Conflicts relating to money, children or relatives are carried into the bedroom and are best resolved on the other side of the door.

2.  Performance Anxiety becomes more of an issue when couples reach their 50s.  Worry about performance can make any kind of performance impossible, let alone a 10.

3.  Body Image and Poor Self-esteem inhibit couples from initiating or responding to sexual advances.  Childbirth, weight gain and thinning hair affect persons’ feelings of desirability.

4  Expectations and Past Experiences can complicate sexual relationships.  Though we’re born with a natural sex drive, family, religious background and our peers can color our attitudes to sex, for better or for worse.

5.  Stress and Lifestyle Changes sap energy and sex drive.  Health and financial concerns, newborn children, aging parents and job security create competing demands that can weaken sexual desire.

Source:  Harvard Medical School He althbeat, August 15, 2013



Yup, that’s a bubble bath they’re enjoying.

Until recently, surveys of sexual activity in Americans excluded the older population.  Age fifty-nine was the cut-off because older adults were considered irrelevant, not enough activity going on to generate enough data to bother with.

Well, guess again.

Our generation is happily generating plenty of data, according to two new studies, one conducted by the University of Chicago and one by Indiana University.

Here are some facts from their studies:

Among long-lived Americans, 20-30% are sexually active into their 80s.

Sexual activity gradually tapers off with age.  In the Indiana study, 35% of men ages 80 and older had intercourse a few times or more in the past year.  In the Chicago study, 38.5% of the men ages 75 to 85 had sexual activity with a partner in the previous year.

Older women are less sexually active than older men.

Partnered sex was given high marks for satisfaction by 78% of men over 50 and by 68% of women in that age group.

Masturbation is common.  Most men, 63%, and 47% of women over 50 reported masturbating in the past year.

Good health makes a difference, especially among men.  Diabetes had a greater negative effect than did either arthritis or high blood pressure on sexual satisfaction for both genders.

Sexual problems are common.  Among men, 37% had difficulty achieving and maintaining an erection, 28% had lack of interest in sex, 27% had anxiety about performance and 20% were unable to climax.

Among women, 43% reported a lack of interest in sex, 39% had difficulty with lubrication, 34% were unable to climax, 23% had no pleasure from sex and 17% had pain during sex.

Many men take something to improve sexual function.  In the Indiana study, 17% of men 50 and older used erectile dysfunction drugs, In the Chicago Study, 14% of the men and 1% of women relied on drugs to enhance performance.

Source:   Harvard Medical School Healthbeat, July, 17, 2012       Chicago study published in The Journal of New England Medicine, August 23, 2007        Indiana study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, October 4, 2010